Yo! I really wish this was not the sentiment. Support the media you consume. Otherwise you don’t know what sort of shady shit is going on.
Shady shit happens specifically because there is money to be made. If everyone around the world stopped paying for porn, full stop, then the only porn that would be made would be passion projects from artists who want to create for the sake of it.
Doubt it. People would still post revenge porn, unconsensually filmed stuff or leak e.g nudes that were meant for each other and not the public. Because the motivation there is not money, it would be to humiliate, for example.
Fair
Exploitation takes place when the money isn’t paid directly to the workers. Anyone who cares to consume porn responsibly should consider this before they go to free hosting sites that make money from ad revenue and shady services.
ad revenue and shady services
So as long as there is money to be made?
Maybe they just have a partner they look at
My wife hates it when I masterbate to her. She’s always like, ew gross, I’m on a conference call.
But Jennifer, also on the conference call, is always rooting for me 110%. We should all be more like Jennifer.
Porn is the only reason I am still married. After our second kid, my wife’s already low sex drive dropped to asexual. She is a wonderful mother, but she is either willfully or ignorantly oblivious to any romantic advance. I get, on average, about one fully clothed, under-the-covers hand job every 6 months or so that’s so unenthusiastic that I am reminded why I stopped trying to get her to do it. I am sexually starving. The only thing I want in the world right now is to feel the warm touch of someone who actually wants to touch me again, but I’d rather die, lonely, but married to her than let my kids grow up in a broken home…
So ya, I jerk off to porn after she goes to bed.
Damn that sucks! Wouldn’t have believed somebody telling you on your honeymoon that so little intimacy was in your future, huh? No fair :( I hope that, if nothing changes, your coping mechanisms remain effective.
It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.
Which would you rather for your kids?
Which are you showing your kids by example?
‘Hey kids, your mom won’t give daddy the nookie so I’ma head out now’
Ok, but me being in my late 30s I’d be like, I get it dad.
Fair enough, it really does depend on how old the kids are, but the mental image was too funny to me
Hire sex workers and tell her.
Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.
Yeah. I had a dad that didn’t get laid too. Sex is in the bottom layers of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, then intimacy is up higher as well. If you’re not getting these things you’re not going to be able to hide them. Your kids won’t know why until they’re much older WHY your not happy, but that is a sadness of the soul that nothing can hide.
You ever see one of your friends the day after they get laid and you just know. That’s a kind of joy from having your needs met that you can’t fake.
You’re teaching your kids it’s OK with someone who doesn’t meet your needs. It’s not.
Be with someone who makes you happy. Let your wife do the same. Show your kids what a happy marriage and happy parents look like so they can model their relationships that way. Don’t continue the cycle.
Ah, yes. Let me tell the children that I’m getting a divorce cause wifey won’t fuck me
How about, “Daddys leaving because he no longer in a loving relationship with mommy.” Divorce isn’t the end of the world.
Except it seems from the comment that they are still in a loving relationship, just not much of a sexual one.
If your partner does not acknowledge you as a sexual being, that isn’t very loving.
For real though, why is everyone heading straight to divorce, instead of talking about how to tap that wife
Cause it’s condescending to explain to a person you don’t know who has been in a serious relationship with a person you dont know for who knows how long that you can tap it if you’re just an extra good boy.
The demand for sexual exclusivity by default is evil.What your wife is doing to you is animal neglect !
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I support independent creators of all kinds.
I’d only pay for it by commissioning entirely new porn to be made specifically for me.
That’s arguably why the current crop of porn is so heavily weighted to the incest fantasy shit.
The Hapsburgs are driving the market for new material.
I, too, welcome our onlyfans overlords.
Those interested: Erika Lust is a fun site. It has more ethical porn that you don’t have to wade through weird crap for. Well worth it IMHO
I would also recommend, x confessions is fun. but you can also find it free online fyi
Erika Lust
I get turned off by high production values like that, it’s like jacking off at someone’s workplace.
I have a hard time keeping it off when it involves the profit motive
I like reading my porn tbh.
Everybody talking about free vs paid but nobody linking to the good ones of either…
games or vids?
Game
another chance, free on itch io
Video
candylove
I feel like this is implying that there’s just “free porn” out there “somewhere” on the internet
lol yeah, what’s next? Are benevolent pixies going to distribute it throughout the forest too?
I get paid porn for free
coomer.su? or what
I’m really shocked at how many people (apparently) shell out for onlyfans, subscriptions and such.
I swear, I’m the only sane one, not the only insane one.
same honestly
I don’t pay because I don’t consume prn at all!
Well. More porn for the rest of us.
Oh, crumb! I’ve gotten here way too late to make a joke about it not being a zero cum game. Ah, well. Next time!
God makes you that?
His plan is to vicariously enjoy pornography through us, as an omniscient entity, he cannot otherwise enjoy sex on a guttural level like we can.
And of course, the vast majority of humans would not enjoy a statically significant amount of sexual if it weren’t for pornography, so that’s why he intervenes to make you seek out varied and rare porn.
This is basically the only reason why earth isn’t just rocks floating in space.
Thankful for not having a lot of money, meaning such a expense would be negligible?
Why, do you need to make yourself feel better about addiction to free porn? ‘At least I am not paying for it like the rest of the losers’.
Not really judgy just a banter
Bro is reading what t they want to read lol
Bro is farming internet points with unoriginal comments
Nobody said anything about that.
It’s one of them antihuman antifappers trying to equate all pornography consumption with addiction !
GET THEY !!
EDIT : The above comment was “removed by mod” I am 10x more upset about that I’m sorry emmie@lemmy.world, mods are jerks
Somewhat of a dumb take. There’s nothing free on the internet. So you either pay for it directly or by giving away your data or participating in some form of scheme.
Also imagine paying a creator of the media that you consume and not a platform which scams an agency which scams the creator.
How horrible…
Honestly people are fucking weird. What is wrong with actually supporting the creator?
true by selling your data and stuff