Thankfully, my wife and I were both open to seeing single parents. Now we are married parents with more kids than we started with!
If you mean as a person without kids, I have a tip: YOU SHOULD NOT BE MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE KID.
That’s not too say that you aren’t special or important, it’s just that the kid(s) are children that rely on their parent to exist. That’s a big responsibility, and it needs to be respected. You’re a grown ass adult and you can take care of yourself. If you can’t deal with your partner not restructuring their whole life around you, then stay away from people with kids.
You don’t need to shift your own priorities and make their child your number one, (maybe if things go well in the long term, that will happen on its own) but, if you go out of your way to at least be friends with the kids, or learn a little bit about them, that’s going to score a TON of points with the parent.
Thankfully, my wife and I were both open to seeing single parents. Now we are married parents with more kids than we started with!
If you mean as a person without kids, I have a tip: YOU SHOULD NOT BE MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE KID.
That’s not too say that you aren’t special or important, it’s just that the kid(s) are children that rely on their parent to exist. That’s a big responsibility, and it needs to be respected. You’re a grown ass adult and you can take care of yourself. If you can’t deal with your partner not restructuring their whole life around you, then stay away from people with kids.
You don’t need to shift your own priorities and make their child your number one, (maybe if things go well in the long term, that will happen on its own) but, if you go out of your way to at least be friends with the kids, or learn a little bit about them, that’s going to score a TON of points with the parent.