And I don’t mean things you previously had no strong opinion about.

What is a belief you used to hold that you no longer do, and what/who made you change your mind about it?

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    I used to think that adoption was basically “buying a kid” and was very cut-and-dry.

    Now I know that adoption is really about merging another family into your life to do what’s best for the kiddo. It’s an ongoing journey that will change the lives of everyone involved.

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      I consider people who adopt to be basically heros. I can hardly think of a more selfless act than to give home to a child without one. That is an absolutely glorious thing for someone to do.

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        Unless they’re a family vlogger. Screw those people.

        Ultimately, the adoptee might still be in a “better position” in terms of food and shelter, but they lose privacy and anonymity, and are often treated like shit off camera (sometimes on)

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            Some YouTubers will go and adopt a child and then vlog about their lives with said kid for views. It’s sad.

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        I have heard of families who adopt to get government assistance checks, and the kids are mostly just ignored/the adopters do the bare minimum. I hope that’s not that usual.

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          I don’t know about this. My cousin is trying to adopt and it’s not only a lot of work to get approved it’s also extremely expensive. Like in the 5 digit range