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    3 days ago

    I’ve seen it in the wild. The common assumption is they’re aware of their social shortcomings and attempt to close them by exclaiming things that are only relevant to their insecurities, which are obviously unrelatable to other people. So it is important in securing their world, but dismissed or ironically belittled in the opinion of anyone else.

    It’s not healthy. I think if people were more empathetic to them, it would help and their behaviour would cease. They’ve only ever wanted to feel accepted or needed in society

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      Yeah the meat of my misunderstanding is:

      they’re aware of their social shortcomings and attempt to close them by exclaiming things that are only relevant to their insecurities

      I mean I’m pretty aware of my shortcomings but it doesn’t lead me down to an alpha/beta philosophy.

      Maybe I’m old-school but just trying to improve those (if I want to) and generally not caring what people think seems easier to me than inventing a whole alpha/beta worldview.

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        The point being, their shortcomings are already related to the alpha/beta mindset, they don’t create it. They may be insecure about height, lack of affection growing up, being seen as a disappointment, etc. So they defensively project an image of themselves onto others, but only they see it.