Hi there, in case you’re wondering, this is just a burner account as I want to keep somewhat personal things separate from my usual account.

I’m looking for some advice/thoughts on the following.

I’m in a relationship and we’re slowly looking into moving together, which also brings financial things to the table. She’s got a kid, both of the parents are still somewhat in the picture. When we’re moving together it’ll mean that they will be living in my house. She already told me that shes not ever asking me to pay anything with regards to the kid, but I think that’s not really all that fair.

I’m looking for advice/thoughts on this matter. Personally I would find it nothing but fair to chip in for the necessary things, as in food, clothes etc., but draw the line when it comes to school, vacation and that sort of things, mainly because both of the parents are still there and to not bring a kid that her and I might ever have in the future in a financial disadvantage, because I’ve been chipping in for everything for the other kid. Secondly, it’s of course their kid that they chose for, so it’s not my responsibility, neither does the kid owe me any responsibility.

  • P34C0CK@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Personally I would find it nothing but fair to chip in for the necessary things, as in food, clothes etc., but draw the line when it comes to school, vacation and that sort of things

    Ideally both parents will contribute for the sake of their child’s wellbeing, but you can’t draw a line in these situations.

    Secondly, it’s of course their kid that they chose for, so it’s not my responsibility, neither does the kid owe me any responsibility.

    You’re not ready for this this kind of major life change. You need to reconsider this move if this is how you truly feel.

    • Burn4@lemmy.worldOP
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      11 months ago

      Thanks. Yeah I’ve worded that in a wrong way, it’s definitely not the way how I feel.