cross-posted from: https://links.hackliberty.org/post/582272

I have lots of old friends who I only maintained sparse contact with. When I let my personal email address die (the address they would all have records of), I did not bother to update them with a new address.

They are all on the platform of some surveillance capitalist (e.g. Google or Microsoft). Google & Microsoft both refuse connections from self-hosted residential servers. And even if they didn’t, I am not willing to feed those surveillance advertisers who obviously don’t limit their surveillance to their users but also inherently everyone who makes contract with their users. I cannot support that or partake in pawning myself to subsidize someone else’s service.

I just wonder if anyone else has taken this step.

  • Danny M@lemmy.escapebigtech.infoM
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    6 months ago

    the case at hand involves people who are distant & mostly out of touch, phone numbers have changed, so the real life connections have died off and there’s only email

    In that case would it not perhaps be practical to create a separate email address on pm to use just to email those friends and let them know how they can reach you? Maybe even setup a separate matrix account, or even better a separate simplex chat identity, then give them your “real” identity/username once they’ve contacted you, so that google and microsoft can’t easily connect you to what you actually use.

    It’s obviously far from ideal, and I expect a lot of your friends to not bother because they might see it as needlessly complicated, but maybe it’s worth a try?

    Ideally there would be a decentralized platform perhaps specifically for the purpose of people reconnecting.

    that would be great, yeah