Hi gang and welcome to the third weekly improvement megathread!

I’m gonna copy the ideas for discussion from the previous threads but these are just my suggestions, feel free to discuss whatever you wish.

  • Do you want to share something you’ve done in the previous week? Everything counts, nothing is too small.
  • What would you like to do next week?
  • What aspect of life would you like to improve?
  • Do you have any streaks? For example, “sober for one day.” Feel free to post your streak every day in this thread.
  • If you don’t have a continuous streak, did you manage to abstain from something for a day or more?
  • Did you come across some useful information or resource that might help others?

I’m wishing everybody a great week! unity

  • SeventyTwoTrillion [he/him]@hexbear.netMEnglish
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    9 months ago

    I think it’s important to talk about this stuff, because habit building/self improvement/recovery is usually more like an upward trend on a chart with lots of little dips and gains and not one continuous line upward.

    100%. A “trick” I developed over time with this sort of thing was like… mentally “flipping” around my perspective of improving and being a better person.

    As in, when I break a habit for a few days or even a few weeks, I used to be like “Oh no, I’ve regressed back into the person I was before I started this journey, and now I need to start again.”

    Whereas now, when I break a habit, I’m like “Oh, this is fine. I am still ‘the person that does this habit’, I haven’t regressed, I’m still on the exact same journey that I’ve been on this whole time, and I’m not restarting because there’s nothing to restart, I’m just getting back on track.”

    I personally find this mental framing to make it a lot less daunting when shit happens, as it tends to do. Imagining that you’ve fallen all the way back down the mountain, when in reality you just paused the climb for a little, makes resuming the positive habits seem exhausting and makes missing a few days intensely demoralizing.