Does your roommate look like this person because that would explain the no flushing part

down with cis

up with trans

starting the new mega with somebody who gives me inexplicable thoughts about gender neutral restrooms

Ok, we can have that discussion. Forget about the disengage. I’m not saying you’re a transmedicalist, i never had that impression and still don’t. I need to get that out of the way, and i don’t want to antogonize anybody here. But i do see a lot of trains of thought on hexbear (and in most trans spaces, although i’ve stopped going to those that are worse than hexbear in this regard) that are centering biologist ideas over a performative and internal view of gender. And that doesn’t jive with my own experiences. That’s not to say that changes to our biology aren’t important, i’ve altered my body a lot, i will alter it much more in the future and it does me a lot of good. But no matter how urgent and needed that process is, that’s a secondary step. To determine one’s gender independent of any biological dictates, gain confidence in it, and claim our body as a space we can safely inhabit without it threatening our identity, and without being dependent on external validation, is what i view as the foundational groundwork of a fulfilling trans experience and as the core of trans liberation. That important step can be made at a very early stage in the transition, and it does not require already having brought our body more in line with how we want it to be. Fixing some things makes it easier to feel at peace in my own skin, but it does not make me more of a woman. Because i already am that.

I’ve found EstraDoll’s post to be really refreshing in that regard. I liked to see her gaining that sense of self acceptance and that understanding that she already is a woman by her self-identification alone and that this makes her body a woman’s body, regardless of how “female” it already is. This is why i took objection to bringing estrogen into it: It sidetracks what is a victory in an ideological battle against internalized transphobia and implies that acceptance of our gender identity requires achieving some degree of medical transition.

This isn’t going anywhere. I seriously have to disengage at this point.

People can and do make the same realizations while they’re not on HRT, or when dating trans women who aren’t on HRT. I just don’t get why you’d center estrogen this way under a post like that.

Don’t get me wrong, estrogen saved my life, but trans women have a woman’s body way before we go on HRT. The whole point of that post is that womanhood isn’t dependent on some random degree of physical transitioning.

YEKOKATAAAA!!!

NO NATION BUT THE TRANCE TRANS NATION! NO WAR BUT THE CLASS WAR!!!

A second plane has hit the egg!

Press the red T, i show you how deep the rabbit hole actually goes.

Well, my personal experience is that trans people tend to find ways to navigate or even speedrun gatekeepy systems. We’re persistent in that, and connecting with others can save you a ton of unneccessary trouble. Personally i’ve found waiting lists to be the biggest obstacle to accessing care. The therapist i went for gave me the paperwork to access HRT after two sessions, and the one i later switched to would’ve done the same after the first session, but getting appointments in the first place still meant it took me about 8 months from my decision to start HRT to my first dose. But if i had been active in the communities i’m in now, i could’ve cut down on that time massively. It really helps to keep an ear to the ground, and to get new and up-to-date advice instead of digging up old posts somewhere that may not be accurate any longer. Like, the endocrinologist i go to is somebody i’m really happy with, listens, centers patient needs and experiences, is fine with me adjusting my dose on my own and i got a slot within two months, but by now she doesn’t take in new patients anymore and what i’ve heard from other doctors at the same place makes me feel sorry i recomended it to others. A lot of the quality of care boils down to individual doctors and therapists.

How medical gatekeeping is handled varies a lot from country to country and i wouldn’t feel comfortable giving advice to somebody who isn’t dealing with the German healthcare system (which you most likely aren’t when you’re talking about a gender incongruence diagnosis, transferring clinic wait times and so on). You should connect to local trans orgs and communities over this.

There’s no fucking way i could’ve grown up in this misogynist shitfest of a society as a cis girl without massive trauma. Especially not if i would’ve been the same girl i am now.

Subtle coding is too lesbian for the straights.

This is the first time i’ve seen transfemme instead of transfem. Would make me think you’re talking about a trans woman who is also a femme lesbian, because that’s where i usually see femme used in queer contexts.

With long skirts, i find it better to lift them up and hold the bundled up skirt in my hand, they sprawl all over the floor otherwise and i don’t want that to happen in front of a toilet. With dresses, you have no other option anyway. Miniskirts i just pull down like pants.

oh look somebody else already posted the exact same thing lol

I just come up with excuses why anything should be fem coded.

Bear traps are usually found in the woods (unless you’re a libertarian commune that decided they don’t need indirect modes of taxation like public trash disposal services). So i’d say this whole thing is cottagecore / witch / lumberjill coded, which is all extremely lesbian.

Doesn’t have to be a boymoder, could also be a transmasc person who’s out at work. Not every trans man or transmasc nonbinary person binds or has had top surgery. Don’t wanna rain on your parade here, but this really could go either way and shows you shouldn’t assume people’s gender.