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  • I would like to say you have been very helpful and I think have settled on taking your advice. No matter how this ends, I could still end up with a good friend. I would be lying if I said I wouldn’t be a bit disappointed though. However, that’s life and she has no obligation to me.

    Also I have no idea who the guy was or what role he played to her. I assumed it was a lower level employee but you bring up a good point there.






  • This is a very good take. She had told me that she feels imposter syndrome and that she enjoys talking to me. It would also explain some of her behavior. As I work in the tech field, just about everyone has imposter syndrome, so I reassured her that she is great at her job and she’s got this. She really is good at it and I hope she knows it.

    I don’t think she is using me in a malicious manner, I mean, I did technically offer that I would teach her. I was just surprised she took up the offer.

    Although you reminded me of something. A week prior to me meeting her, one of my coworkers was learning under her when he went to go help out. Apparently a guy came up to her while this happened and asked her out. She turned him down for the reason it would be inappropriate for her to date someone where there is this power dynamic.

    My coworker told me this and that might be the nail in my coffin. However, it is also possible she just used it as an excuse to not have to deal with turning him down more harshly. I could believe both things. Hense more confusion, why make an exception to hang out with me then?



  • Bread@sh.itjust.worksOPtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlIs she into me? I really just can't tell.
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    5 months ago

    That doesn’t even make any sense, I don’t work for her. I just offered to help. Even if she did need to talk to me, she would use teams chat as electronics are not allowed in the area, only work laptops. I didn’t mention that earlier because it didn’t seem necessary.

    I also am hourly so nobody calls me when I am not working. She also isn’t using it for that purpose either.




  • If she is willing to ask for my number and meet me on my off days to chat, it is not a stretch to want to see what her motivations are and if they match my own. In our case it would likely be more frowned upon than firable. That’s a chance I am willing to take if she is.

    Also we don’t really work together so she is not my boss. I just happened to help out for a short time. She may never see me at work again for all I know.