Good god the medical system is awful about trans stuff, isn’t it? Absolute nightmare of a system, when it would be so easy to just give hormones to people who are like, hey, my life is better with hormones.
I didn’t actually realize that was the history of these terms, thanks for explaining. I guess “gender incongruence” is better, at least it’s not saying the person experiencing it is disordered. Still though, especially this far into transition, I don’t actually feel any “incongruence”. I’d be miserable if I had to stop taking testosterone, but having experienced that feeling, I wouldn’t describe it as gender incongruence, or, frankly, even having anything whatsoever to do with gender! My body just runs better with a testosterone-dominant endocrine system.
Ah well, the medical system is what it is, and despite the fact that the terminology used for us fucking sucks, there’s not really a better option right now.
Interestingly, I’m glad I didn’t realize I was trans earlier than I did! I was like 27, partway through grad school, had good health insurance and a supportive environment (including the best partner ever, love that guy), my parents couldn’t say shit, and I’d already spent years living as a woman, interrogating what womanhood meant to me, before deciding I didn’t want it. (Don’t want manhood either, my gender is “no thank you, I’m good”.)
Sure, I maybe could have avoided some pain and awkwardness if I’d realized I was trans sooner. On the other hand, as cool as my parents are, I don’t think they would have let me transition as a kid and that would have been a whole different level of hell I don’t think I would have dealt with very well. And given the conservative area we lived in, the bullying would have been off the charts, and I was already bullied. No thanks.
Also, I kind of like the empathy and understanding of women that living for so long as one has given me. I know from personal experience what it’s like to be a woman in a male-dominated profession, and if I’d transitioned earlier I wouldn’t have had that same experience.
I’m glad I’ve transitioned, I’m much more myself now, but I don’t mind having lived 27 or so years of my life as a woman, it was alright. A mask and a performance, yes, but an enlightening one that usually wasn’t too constricting.