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  • You missed a very, very important keyword there: “deserved.”

    Theologians miss a key point of rational debate where they don’t provide proper definitions and make big assumptions that aren’t great.

    Who defines what the “correct” effect of an action is? Who defines what consequence is deserved by a choice? If God is the almighty being, he decides what is right and wrong. In Abrahamic tradition, God defines all of these arbitrary rules and expects humanity to obey them without question. Shit, God ordered Abraham himself to murder despite that supposedly being against the rules.

    God is like a kid that holds a magnifying glass focused on an arbitrary point near the anthill. He set up the conditions for us to hurt ourselves according to his arbitrary rules. Why didn’t he tell Satan to fuck off with the fruit? Why did he allow Satan to exist in the first place? If God created everything, then he is responsible for everything by our human logic. So God can fuck right off


  • There are two reasons people cheat: 1) they didn’t value the relationship in the first place or 2) they’re not getting something they need from the relationship, usually (but not always) trust.

    She was jealous of you with your friend. She was far away. These may be reasons for her to cheat. I only mention this because you may be searching for reasons.

    More importantly, it is not your fault. You did what you thought was acceptable and right. Even if she had reasons, those reasons aren’t sufficient justification for what she did. She should have communicated these things. If the jealousy bothered her that much, she should have made it clearer to you. If she wasn’t happy with the distance, she should have communicated that to you. She made the choice to prioritize her desires over loyalty to your relationship.

    I’ll repeat, she made the choice to do this things. She decided cheating on you was more important than loyalty to you. If you really do want to fix things, this needs to be abundantly clear. She needs to understand that it was a choice, and you both need to understand why she made that choice. Then you need to figure out if it’s possible for her to make the same choice again. Given that this was an ongoing thing, she likely doesn’t feel too guilty and would probably do it again. I think she will make the same choice again.

    Last thing, it is important for you to understand what happened here, but you have to restrain yourself to some degree. Don’t fall into a spiral. Don’t obsess about finding a satisfying answer because no answer will be satisfying. Scratch the itch just enough, then move on; don’t scratch the skin off.

    Best of luck, friend


  • MechWarrior 2: 31st Century Combat

    The Remembrance speaks to us on the evil of man’s will, of the reasons for Exodus, and the Rites of the Traveler. Arcadia is our destiny and our right. Enlightenment is our gift. By the Bloodnames of the founders we must return, return and protect that which is unique among the stars. Terra awaits us as it was written. We are the last of the Wardens, the sole hope for the Earth.

    Wolves still prowl



  • I have zero idea what your angle is, but for the benefit of others…

    Nazi-ism is a chosen belief system with a core belief in depriving other groups of basic human rights. The depriving other people of basic human rights is the key part.

    Hate speech is directed towards people with attributes that they cannot change or religion. Religion gets added in there because changing religion is not a simple thing, and in major religions doesn’t hurt people. (Don’t start citing religious terrorists - that is fundamentalism within a religion and not a commonly shared belief among all followers.

    So hating on nazis is cool.


  • It’s not a matter of reward or punishment. It’s a matter of the skills required for continued success.

    Early startups require big risk-taking, progressing at an absurd speed, charisma to get investor capital, and really just being a little crazy.

    Once the concept is proven to be viable and potentially profitable, the focus needs to shift from proving it can work to making it sustainable. This involves less risk, process improvements to avoid issues like getting sued, better money management, more careful time management to avoid burnout of non-founder employees, and generally just being more rational about things.

    It’s rare that a person can exhibit both of these sets of behaviors, so companies will often swap out the former for the latter as a company matures. If they didn’t, the founders might unintentionally drive the company into the ground by taking unnecessary risks after finding something that already works.

    Does that answer your question, or did I miss the mark, still?





  • Maybe I’m part of the problem, and if so, please educate me, but I’m not understanding why blocking is ineffective…?

    And block lists seem like an effective method to me.

    The security improvements described seem reasonable, so it would be nice to get those merged.

    I understand that curation and block lists require effort, but that’s the nature of an open platform. If you don’t want an open platform, that’s cool, too. Just create an instance that’s defederated by default and whitelist, then create a sectioned-off Fediverse of instances that align with your moderation principles.

    I feel like I’ve gotta be missing something here. These solutions seem painfully obvious, but that usually means I’m missing some key caveat. Can someone fill me in?








  • Haven’t read outliers, but I live in Korea. Weak people in authority here is a serious problem. See the Sewol ferry incident: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sinking_of_MV_Sewol

    The culture of saving face and not causing disturbance compounds the problem. For example, some married couples prefer to not know if their partner is cheating so as to not disturb the peace of the family. Fortunately, this is becoming more rare, but it is still an issue.

    Edit: Not agreeing with the previous comment. Just mentioning where the idea may have come from. I don’t believe Korean culture impacts plane crash rates. When the chain of command and responsibilities are clear, Koreans make stuff happen. It’s actually quite admirable. And cultural idiosyncrasies aside, people generally try to do what they believe to be the right thing, and not letting a plane crash is pretty right under normal circumstances