The first thing that comes to mind is Brock Turner. He raped an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. To you does that fall under “violent rape” or “having sex with someone too drunk to consent”? In my view it’s both. The violence is inherent in the act of being violated. People need to err on the side of consent or accept the risk of being called a rapist.

You’re not looking very hard.

https://www.irontontribune.com/2022/07/26/portsmouth-woman-charged-with-rape-and-kidnapping/

https://www.abc4.com/news/local-news/woman-charged-with-felony-rape-sodomy-for-sexually-abusing-two-13-year-old-boys/

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/chantae-gilman-woman-rapes-man-seattle_n_5824456

https://www.cps.gov.uk/mersey-cheshire/news/woman-jailed-life-rape-and-sexual-abuse-young-girl

https://eu.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2022/02/23/tennessee-woman-charged-statutory-rape-high-school-students/6914454001/

The media often phrases things this way, regardless of gender.

https://poststar.com/cops-man-had-sex-with-underage-girl/article_9e33090e-647a-5df7-ad59-381c15ec74f9.html

https://www.advocate.com/crime/2022/2/15/ex-dc-police-officer-charged-having-sex-16-year-old-boy

https://abc13.com/archive/8449928/

https://www.vicnews.com/news/man-sentenced-to-18-months-jail-time-for-sex-with-minor-on-vancouver-island-42544

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/vt-man-pleads-guilty-to-traveling-to-ny-for-sex-with-minor/ar-AA1fpCb0