I can’t relate as well, as I live in a city where things are really really aafe. But there are places where a women are afraid to walk alone in the dark, even for a few steps. (And even in safe places some people are quite afraid)

I’d be very careful with remote diagnosis. You. might be right, she needs therapy. She might just be afraid, because something bad happened to her some time.

The only way is for OP to have a good talk with her what’s bothering her - and then he may come to a conclusion. As of now, there’s just not enough information.

I’m 53 now and was considering getting an official diagnosis a few years ago, I even had the initial appointments set up.

I canceled it, because there was too much going on in my life at that moment (even got a notification I could reschedule for later)

All that made me think about what I was hoping for from diagnosis. In the end it was just having something in writing that would help me with self-acceptance.

Around that time I also was in a group psychotherapy so I talked about that and that part is now solved.

Regarding meds - I don’t want to try them now as my other coping strategies are good enough at the moment and I’m a bit wary of side effects as I need to take a handful of. medicine every day, anyways.

In the end you need to decide why you want a diagnosis. If you want to try meds I’d go for it. (My son “inherited” it from me and had meds for a time, which really helped him).

In a case like mine where I didn’t expect any new strategies out of it or didn’t want meds - it was probably the right decision to skip it.

Speaking for a friend, they crashed the Mini Clubman S I love… sorry, THEY loved very much because of a WhatsApp that just arrived. Some one five cars ahead or so had to slam their brakes - eyes on the street would have made the reaction time “just enough” but even looking away for one second caused the crash.

Learn from my err friend, don’t look at your phone while driving, even for a very short time.

Damage on the Mini was more than its worth at the time. No one was injured, but even what looks like a small fender bender can quickly get very expensive nowadays.

Bernie and Ert

https://youtu.be/SSD0e5JCVAk?si=AYe5cMTDCiyF3oYo

Jon needs a carbon monoxide detector and a new oven.

Use this instead when you’re in Germany:

https://youtu.be/3GkjtGKbo94?si=P3UGgXr4pZmRIPfM

Now I am completely unsure whether to call this a dad joke.

https://youtu.be/0XOKvFyNquM?si=3vnkLur3A79V3J9q

Sorry for making fun about your typo, but the thought of a cussion - a cushion that cusses like a sailor every time you sit on it - is too funny.

The footrest is still there in a manual car. The brake pedal is smaller, the clutch in between.

When you brake you hit the clutch with the left foot and brake with the right one on the brake pedal. Unintentionally smashing the wider brake pedal can happen if you switch from a smaller car to one with a very wide brake pedal. (Mercedes have quite wide brake pedals, for example)

It also happened a few times to me over my. life until I got used to put my left foot very close to the seat when driving automatic, so I don’t subconsciously use it. (Just “away” from where I’d have it in a manual car)

It typically happens if you need to do emergency braking anyways and just all the reflexes kick in. In normal situations it never happened to me.

As gas stations have enough room for more expensive “ultimate” versions of fuel, I don’t think that’s the reason. You can frequently get two kinds of Diesel and three kinds of Gas at the pump.

O. t. o. h…maybe the whole “premium fuel” hype resulted from stations having additional tanks after leaded fuel was phased out.

Tbh, I have no idea. The whole of Europe was late to this. The first catalytic conveter cars were sold in 1973 in the US and 1985 in Germany.

Switzerland made them obligatory in 1986, Germany made them obligatory only in 1993 - because that was an EU-wide regulation.

The only thing I can imagine is the big political influence car makers have in Germany, but that’s just “what sounds reasonable to me”, no proof.

Wow. Sleep - it isn’t as I try to get good sleep every day, but the moment I lie down my brain gets into overdrive.

Exercise - great. If I wasn’t bored to death while doing exercise it might work.

Music - great. I get headphones and start vibing to the music, forgetting what I wanted to do in the first place, but I apply creativity and make AMAZAING playlists…

Really, who ever wrote all that down has no ideas what ADHD is. These are calming ideas for normies.

Watching funny movies - yep, I do that for four or six hours at a time, but it doesn’t make me more productive.

Sun - hmm, all the vitamins I take haven’t cured me, neither did crusing in my old convertible getting sunburn on my neck and arms

Pets - You really want a pet to stay at my place, where I have to regularly take care about them? Poor pet. I might forget feeding for a few days. O. t. o. h. I have a lot of plants, every single one quite drought resistant by natural selection.

Stay positive - yeah, as long as my impulsivivity isn’t giving me intrusive ideas.

Ok, I have lived all my life with my own ADHD brain, and I really do have a number of strategies that help. But crap like this guide trivializes the struggle and it doesn’t make me calm, it just makes me angry.

STOP TRIVIALIZING.

Fuck, Germany introduced unleaded fuel only in 1984 and still offered leaded fuel for a long time.

It was required because of the introduction of catalytic converters, which would get damaged by lead in the fuel.

When I was at Bundeswehr I was in hospital for some time and got some thorough diagnosis. They asked me if I worked with lead in the past (no), so I seem to have at least some lead levels in my body.

(Can’t think of a I AM NOT CRAZY pun right now)

Exactly this thought made made me understand “god is irrelevant” a long time ago and I became an agnosticist.

I really can not understand people who are only “good” because they fear an ultimate judgment, and not be good just because they want to out of their own volition.

In case there are gods, I’ll be judged for who I am, anyways. It doesn’t matter if I play “good child”. If there are no gods, I’m still happier if I’m not an asshole.

No I don’t, at all. I follow a few moral rules, like “Don’t be an asshole”. I actively don’t try to hurt other people. But there is no superior being that makes me do it, whose will I bend to.

By the way, this was my road to atheism: As a teenager, brought up with a few christian viewpoints (nothing like in the US) I one day thought

• if I only am behaving “well” because I will be judged one day, I’m still not a good person.

• if I want to be a morally good person I need to be that person out of my own free inner will

• if I am, I need no judge, therefore god is irrelevant

Then I stayed with atheistic agnosticism (god is improbable but possible) for another 30 years or so.

Calling myself an atheist now, as I do not BELIEVE gods exist (*) , but the nonexistence of something can not be scientifically proven.

*= Of course gods “exist”. Gods are an idea, thought up by many human minds, as a shared idea they really are potent things. GOD IS A MEME. Therefore gods are everything and as powerful as religious people believe.

He’s in General Error’s unit.

Oh, fuck ist it Boeing coffee?

Don’t you know how to use the three seashells?

5 year old me after it bounces back from my finger I accidentally put there- agaaaain! agaaain!

And the stupidest of all car owners is not smarter than a 5y old kid.