That’s awesome to hear, but I’m sure it’ll be unaffordable for many—if not most—people who need it… at least in the US. :(

Idk… a good therapist can do a lot of good. But I can’t in good faith blame you for having that perspective.

There are some really shitty ones out there, and then there are the ones that seem to try, but just aren’t very good. I’ve experienced both myself.

I’d argue that it’s dumb as fuck either way.

Honestly, I’d respond positively. Small talk is exhausting

It takes much more effort to make a healthy well-rounded meal than just scrambling up “a few eggs”. I’m happy you have enough time, energy, and physical ability to spend an hour making dinner, but a lot of people don’t.

Some have multiple jobs, kids, disabilities, ect. Others live in food deserts where it’s impossible—or at least very difficult—to find cheap, healthy food. Not to mention the people who were never taught how to cook, and would have to spend even more time, energy, (and very possibly wasted food) on learning how.

This is coming from someone who can and does cook cheap, healthy meals all of the time.

I’m definitely very lucky to have them in this particular situation.

I didn’t make it clear in my post, but I do plan on suing now that I’ve thought it through; I certainly can’t afford the kinds of medical bills we get in the states.

The empathetic feelings I’ve expressed regarding the driver are just on a personal level, and unrelated to my decision to sue. It sucks, but they made their bed and now must lie in it.

That’s such a sweet offer. Thank you so much! But no. My parents and SO will definitely pushing me to continue if I start having doubts. Both parents are retired, so they can invest as much time as they want into helping me.

I do plan on suing now, but more out of protecting myself than anger or resentment.

It’ll really suck for them, but it’s an important lesson and a natural consequence of that kind of carelessness. It’s not my fault that most US residents are financially struggling (including myself, which is why I should sue).

The walk sign was on, but they also had a green light; that’s how most intersections work where I live, at least. I fucking WISH pedestrians got a light cycle to ourselves. Or at least a few seconds. 😫

But the driver still should have yielded to any pedestrians according to right-of-way laws.

Thank you for sharing your experience… I’m so sorry it went down that way for you.

Awww…🥺 that honestly made me feel a little better. Thank you so much! 💜💜💜

You got hit by a car and your parents and SO already found a lawyer? I support the idea but I seems pretty quick - I guess people deal with stress in different ways, and it was their way of helping “fix the problem”.

You’re exactly right about that. My parents are “fixers” for sure… that’s how they show their love, mostly. They already have a lawyer I guess, and that lawyer apparently knows someone who works with these kinds of cases. My SO was just encouraging me to accept their offer to pay for the attorney.

Thank you! Thankfully, they gave me something a little stronger, but I’ll definitely need that advice when my script runs out, which’ll be in just a few days unless the orthopedic surgeon gives me a refill.

Oh, I plan on suing, to be clear. My mind is made up. I need to protect myself, especially because I have no idea if this will have long-term effects.

But I still feel the same way about them… just on a more personal level.

You’re absolutely right. They’re 100% at fault, and should’ve taken their position as a driver more seriously and diligently. But still, I find it hard to be angry with them, at least currently. 🤷‍♀️

I doubt that they were intentionally reckless… probably just stupid and careless, which we all are at some point or another, in various ways. It just so happens that the consequences of that carelessness in this situation are a lot higher than they are in most other circumstances.

Now, if I found out that they were drunk or texting at the time, that would likely change. Or, perhaps, if I end up having chronic issues that cause me to become resentful.

I’ve had similarly unsafe commutes; it can definitely be scary. I expect to be even more afraid to cross the road now, even at crosswalks. Ugh, I hate how stupidly hostile streets can be for pedestrians.

Also a 15-minute wait for a walk signal is absurd!!! Wtf, it seems like the people who design cities/roadways hate pedestrians.

You’re right; I can’t know how this will actually affect me in the future, so I should protect myself. Thank you for your advice!

I’m glad you didn’t get hurt! I’m sure he was relieved, too.

I have a license, but my sense of direction is absolutely horrible and I tend do stupid things when I’m really stressed while driving, so I rely on public transport as much as possible.