First of all, bless you for having that mindset. I couldn’t possibly understand getting upset that you’d want to return the favor, or that you wanting to please her as well means that you didnt enjoy it.

Do you offer because you’re turned on and genuinely want to make her feel good, or is your offer more based in the tit for tat mentality? Maybe it feels transactional to her if you always offer right after.

If it does bother her so much, maybe you can talk about it and ask her to request it when she wants it if she doesn’t already . Or, instead of offering right after, save it for later and surprise her so that it doesn’t seem obligatory, is that is in fact her issue here.

I guess another way to look at this is that you aren’t taking anything from her, she’s giving it to you, presumably because it makes her happy to please you. That can be satisfying in and of itself for the giver. I think communication about this stuff is key, just keep checking in here and there and enjoy

Fuck yeah, trying to intimidate writers by dragging out negotiations til they lose their homes is disgusting. Glad that actors are stepping up

Dang that’s cool, I’ll have to try some! Yeah, I mean they do affect how your brain functions in the moment, similar to coffee, green tea, alcohol, etc. But it seems that there may be more long term changes, if we look at the lions mane example. Sounds like a super interesting thing to do a deep dive on, though! Idk if there is a whole lot of scientific literature on them but I like to find peer reviewed scientific articles. If you read just the abstract and the conclusion you usually are able to get the info you’re looking for

So there are a bunch of different things in this post thay seem to need answers so Ill try my best to find resources for you.

First off, neuroprotection is defined as “the relative preservation of neuronal structure and/or function”. So we have thousands if not millions of neurons in our body, and each neuron releases neurotransmitters such as endorphins, serotonin, dopamine etc. To be absorbed by other neurons which affect our mood and bodily functions.

Some fungi, such as Lions mane mushrooms have been shown to potentially aid in neuron growth and improve symptoms of alzheimers. In this way they can be neuroprotective.

Now, it has been found that autistic people experience synaptic pruning at a much, much lower rate than neurotypical people. Synapses are like little connectors that help neurons communicate with eachother. As infants we all experience synaptic overgrowth, then we experience synaptic pruning which gets rid of less efficient connections.

Knowing that, my brain goes to thinking that if anything Lions mane might reinforce some aspects of autism! That’s just my first thought though and is probably inaccurate.

I don’t know much about how adaptogens work, and I’ve never really considered a connection to autism before but I did a little digging but there seems to be no real research on this. From my limited understanding, adaptogens seem to work similar to how ingesting vitamins and minerals might work, or coffee or tea. They also cover a broad range of herbs and fungi and they all work differently.

Do you mind explaining how the cordyceps tea made you feel “less autistic”? So far there is no research indicating that there is or will be any “cure” for autism or way to “rewire your brain” to get rid of your autism. If anything, it is likely that adaptogens might help you feel calmer or more focused, where the stress or anxiety might be caused by overstimulation experienced due to autism. So like the overstimulation may remain but they may help to manage it more effectively. Does that make sense?