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  • Eco [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    i think encyclopedia metallum’s reviews might be the most useless shit on the planet. the overall review score is just an average, which means some sad person going through an artist’s albums and ranking them all 0-10% massively skews the score

  • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Okay crossthread replies, lfg. (I posted em to the wrong one tho)

    @sneak100@hexbear.net you replied to my whiny bs:

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    Okay I’m actually gonna explode or something if I keep hearing people lavish praise on me about how critical and important my posting is, like noooo shut the fuck up the mega had cooler en bees before me noooooooo knifecat Hearing stuff like that from you or LeninsReincarnatedCat or everyone else just boggles my brain, but I’m literally so happy I can help, y’know?

    doomjak Yeah… You kinda got at exactly why I was apologetic for posting though, because like look at this dumb removed feelind bad about being all privileged and then FUCKIN WHINING ABOUT IT. Don’t think I’ll do that again but I really appreciate that everyone’s been graceful and kind to me over it. As far as the massive thread goes, I’m shocked by the turnout, like I hoped some people would reply but some of these comments are so good I am gonna have to frame em. It has been really good fwiw.

    Helps I don’t have a job cause I got fired bocchi-cry I used to post less because I was always busy at work, but I can dedicate a lot of my time to mega now, which I love doing. Ty for your excellent n smart words honestly.

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    Crossthread replies 2, @sneak100@hexbear.net regarding shaving:

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    Well I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s worried about something weird like this, lmao. I am always active on part of Anti-Brainworm Aktion!!

    That little comment thread was cool though, “Idk just do what makes u feel” wasn’t the reply I was expecting, but it is rad. Low impact…

    Also I guess yeah, to me it struck me as a dude being weird about women’s bodies again, but I guess within that utterly brainrotted perspective it might be okay actually. Huh…

  • Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    I missed the struggle session and I feel bad for opening the hatch again but I also want to share my ftm perspective (that might contain brainworms? idk)

    Firstly I guess I realised by reading all that shit how hard some trans women have it with the fucking stupid expectations society puts on women. I experience(d) it from an afab perspective and I was very sensitive to it where I was always super aware of my appearance and never comfortable if I wasn’t sure that all my hairs were in place (or removed), my skin looked smooth and my clothes were clean and proper but not too boring.

    I super much relate to comparing oneself with the prettiest girls and realising that I’ll never look like that. When I look around me now I see that a lot women don’t conform to the expectations I had set for myself, and those women are just living their life being pretty and comfortable and nice. I literally felt like the world was ending anytime I had a pimple that I couldn’t hide with concealer or I realised that some part of me wasn’t shaven well. At some point I realised my fingers have hair and immediately felt like everyone around me was looking at it while thinking I’m gross, so from then on I had to shave my fucking fingers lol. I’m not really sure how me being trans masc influenced this obsession I had with conforming to all femme expectations. Maybe I thought if I reached my impossible goal of femme perfection I would finally feel more connected to my body?

    I stopped shaving at all a while ago because I realised that I didn’t dislike my bodily hair, I was just scared that other people would find my hair gross. Now that I realised I’m trans I stopped doing most of the things I used to do to appear like a proper feminine women and I notice a difference in how people look at me and talk to me. I get dirty looks sometimes and people seem more hesitant to approach me. This reaction was basically my biggest fear when I was younger and now I’m just learning to live with it because letting strangers dictate how I look and behave is silly and it made me very unhappy.

    I sympathise a lot with trans women who struggle with these same insecurities and high expectations and I can imagine that adding being trans to the mix can make those feelings much worse.

    cuddle

    When I read the part about cis women being lucky for having to put in no effort to look femme I felt a bit defensive about it though because of my own struggle with appearing femme enough even though I was born with the femme hormones.

    But it also made me realise that me being trans masc makes it so much easier for me to deal with that internal struggle I had because I now know that I definitely don’t have to live up to the expectations of a gender I don’t identify with, and it feels like a huge weight taken off of my shoulders.

    I’ll end my long train of thoughts by adding that I’m proud of this space for having some great posters with really good views on gender constructs to help combat unhealthy gender expectations.

    quokka-smile

  • iridaniotter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Interesting excerpts from cissexual radical feminist Catharine A. MacKinnon’s 1979 book Sexual Harassment of Working Women I found while skimming through it:

    Physical characteristics which provide indices of gender include internal and external reproductive organs and genitalia, gonads, hormone balance, and genetic and chromosomal makeup. Strictly speaking, in several of these physical senses gender is not immutable, merely highly tenacious. A transsexual operation, with hormone therapy, can largely transform gender on the physical level, with the major exception of reproductive capacity. But then many born males and females do not possess reproductive capacity for a variety of biological and social reasons. Aside from these characteristics, some evidence of physical differences between the sexes in the aggregate exists in the following areas: body shape, height and weight, muscularity, physical endurance, possibly metabolic rate, possibly some forms of sensory sensitivity, rate of maturation, longevity, susceptibility to certain physical disorders, and some behaviors at birth (irritability, type of movement, and responsiveness to touch). The scientific research stresses the wide, if not complete, mutability of even these differences by social factors such as psychological reinforcements, type of customary physical activity, and career patterns. Moreover, on the biological level, the sex difference is not a polar opposition, but a continuum of characteristics with different averages by sex grouping. (151-152).

    She boldly proclaims that “biological sex” (gender, here) consists of a multitude of traits, almost all of which were malleable in the 1970s, and all of which will eventually be malleable in the 3rd millennium. Hilariously, this radical feminist has a more progressive stance on transsexuals than most of the LGBT (including the T!) community. To her, transsexual women can absolutely change their sex to become women. Yet due to the sex-gender confusion invented in the 20th century, many trans people and almost all of their allies don’t think transsexual women are really women (just their brain is 🤪).

    What hermaphrodism does to the concept of biological gender, transsexuality does to the concept of sex roles. The rigid exclusivity of each sex of the other is undercut in the clear presence of some of both. (154)

    First, you’ll have to excuse her antiquated language here; I don’t think “intersex” had become mainstream until a couple decades later. Also, I find it interesting that she refers to “biological gender” and “sex roles” while today we call it “biological sex” and “gender roles.” Maybe we should bring it back to emphasize how both are constructed rather than innate…

    Anyway, on to the argument. So yes, the transgressive threat that intersex and transsexual people pose towards our patriarchal society’s ideology of oppositional sexism needs to be reckoned with by feminists. Here the author just talks about transsexuality and gender roles, but the block quote above shows how transsexuals have the same effect on “biological” sex as hermaphrodism does. Serano talks about this in Whipping Girl when it comes to trans women, so at least it’s still in the modern (serious) feminist consciousness. Society has a lot of mechanisms to minimize this transgression: arbitrarily define intersex as narrowly as possible so as to keep its official epidemiology low, insist that transsexuals do not change their sex, propaganda insisting that girls and boys are different, only allowing the most stereotypical feminine and heterosexual trans women to transition, etc.

    Transsexuals experience a sense of sex identity cruelly trapped in a nonconforming body. (154)

    Also, it appears she’s been an outspoken trans ally in recent years as well, FYI.

    Whatever the cause of this sense, it cannot be biological gender, since sex identity stands opposed to the body; nor can it be sex role conditioning alone, since sex identity is also opposed to that. (154)

    Another own on the LGBT “community” (L stands for liberal here) - nowadays we have people insisting we were socialized one or the other gender, so we’re not really that gender (they try to say this a bit more nicely though). But if that were the case, we’d identify with the gender that we were raised as! MacKinnon certainly expresses skepticism towards this line of logic.

    The source of such a thorough rejection of standard sex role conditioning as well as physiology is obscure. But it is testimony to the power of the social correlation of sexual identity with physiology that, in order to pursue the desired behavior patterns fully, transsexuals consider it necessary to alter their bodies to accord with their gender identity. A final observation captures both meanings: first, gender identification may be better understood as a social definition of biology than as a biological definition of society, and, second, the power of that definition. (154)

    Admittedly, I’m having a bit of difficulty parsing this, so my interpretation might be wrong. She’s discussing gender socialization, gender identity, gendered physiology, and gendered behavior, all of which have social aspects. But then she makes the leap that transsexuals primarily seek to transition their gendered behavior/role(?), leading them to also transition their gendered physiology??? If this is what she means then I have some qualms. Wanting to be perceived as a woman and wanting to look like a woman (have secondary sexual characteristics that result from estrogen) are separate things, and they are also connected. But I’m pretty sure in the vast majority of cases, the conscious feeling of trans women is they want both, not that they want to be perceived as a woman and thus need to transition to attain this. Of course, subconsciously (and ultimately sociologically), that could be the case maybe… But it’s not really possible to prove without a time machine or the ability to invent whole societies. The historical record of transgender people by definition does not predate the patriarchy. On the other hand, sex hormones and personal style do, so I’m inclined to think transsexuals would still seek transition even without sociological sex. Anyway, I wonder what her thoughts are now.

    Commenting upon the justice of a proposed chromosome test for determining the femaleness of the transsexual tennis player Dr. Renee Richards, one woman observed: “I think nature is not always correct. . . . She looks like a woman, plays like a woman. She is a woman. Chromosomes make things scientific, but nature is not always a hundred percent correct.” (154-155)

    Nearly fifty years later and we’re having the same debates, and the talking points have only regressed. 🙃

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      FYI, transsexual is a really outdated term. Like, even moreso than FtM / MtF. It’s fine in the quotes, it’s ok if you want to use it as your label, but using it on other trans people is kinda weird, for example i really don’t like to be called that because it’s a term that has been used by cis people to pathologize us, and to gatekeep trans identities and exclude nonbinary people and / or trans people who do not want bottom surgery. Not saying you’re doing that, but out of context, still saying “transsexual” in 2024 may be viewed as a red flag in progressive or radical queer spaces and people may suspect you’re truscum.

      • Hexagons [e/em/eir]@hexbear.net
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        I don’t exactly disagree with you and I certainly don’t want to say your feelings about the term are invalid, they’re very valid. I’d like to be very clear that I don’t wander around calling people transsexual.

        But for me personally, at least in a medical context, I think it’s better than some other options. More precisely, last year my official diagnosis for health insurance purposes was “TRANSSEXUALISM”, all caps, I still have the letter from insurance because I find it deeply hilarious for some reason I can’t quite place, probably because “transsexual” is such an outdated term. This year they updated my diagnosis to “gender identity disorder” and I gotta say, I hate that. I don’t think my gender is disordered, I’m just not cis, that’s all. I’d much rather be labeled a “transsexual” than told I have “gender identity disorder”.

        It’s part of the whole medicalizing trans identities fucking sucks, but those of us who need hormones do need to interact with a healthcare system that assumes all healthcare exists because we’re unhealthy in some way. I wish my diagnosis could just be, like, “needs testosterone”.

        This got long, sorry. Basically, I, personally, only speaking for myself here, would much rather be diagnosed with “TRANSSEXUALISM” than “gender identity disorder”.

        • AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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          Historically, the “transsexualism” diagnosis is a subset of “gender identity disorder”. Up until the ICD-10, “transsexualism” (F64.0) is the only subset of GID that is recognized as deserving of gender affirming care. That’s what i was referring to when i said the term was used to exclude certain trans people, it’s not just about gatekeeping them from trans communities, but putting up arbitrary boundaries to deny gender affirming care to as many trans people as possible. Neither of these diagnoses are in the ICD-11, which goes with “gender incongruence”. And that term exclusively refers to dysphoria, not to being trans in itself.

          • Hexagons [e/em/eir]@hexbear.net
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            Good god the medical system is awful about trans stuff, isn’t it? Absolute nightmare of a system, when it would be so easy to just give hormones to people who are like, hey, my life is better with hormones.

            I didn’t actually realize that was the history of these terms, thanks for explaining. I guess “gender incongruence” is better, at least it’s not saying the person experiencing it is disordered. Still though, especially this far into transition, I don’t actually feel any “incongruence”. I’d be miserable if I had to stop taking testosterone, but having experienced that feeling, I wouldn’t describe it as gender incongruence, or, frankly, even having anything whatsoever to do with gender! My body just runs better with a testosterone-dominant endocrine system.

            Ah well, the medical system is what it is, and despite the fact that the terminology used for us fucking sucks, there’s not really a better option right now.

      • iridaniotter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        IIRC I saw someone on Twitter dunking on LGBT libs by saying even Raymond had a more progressive take on sex change but I can’t be assed to read a whole transphobic screed to confirm

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      Aw, I get nightmares too. Used to be of cops chasing me for incomprehensible reasons like a kafka book crossed with the Bourne movies, even younger it was monsters. Now when I have nightmares it’s so much more prosaic and boring, my ex calling me saying they need me to move in so they can pay rent or else something is going to happen to what were our cats now is just theirs, my Mom and one my friends making out which makes me late to some seminar. Never had the “oh no I’m writing an exam for a class I never attended!” dream. I probably would’ve been pretty phlegmatic about it, and just figured I’d keep the streak going and not even write the exam.

    • QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.net
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      Wasn’t scary, but I just dreamt about a mysterious person slinking around in the night, playing cards until someone gets close and they disappear. Before that it was like snow and mysterious animals. I’d say I’ve been reading to much lovecraft, but I have in fact been reading the correct amount.

  • iridaniotter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Love to be a woman right now and have my 2019 female self nearly be called twinkish by my partner and then have it justified because I felt androgynous-to-masc for a couple years later and I wouldn’t have minded then. agony-wholesome

  • Mousy [they/them, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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    Has anyone seen look back? It looks it could be a good movie to watch with my partner :3

    Edit: Oh silly me it looks like it hasn’t had a a release outside of japan oh-shit